Reality is, family members are free to have any expectations they believe are reasonable, earned, or entitled. Other family members are equally free to consider these expectations as irrational, unreasonable, toxic, unjustified or the opposites.
The whole conversation about what anyone "owes" anyone is in part about the alignment or conflict between and among expectations. Conflict can fuel divisive alliances and alienations. Alignments help everyone grow. Empathic listening is a condition of alignment.